Are you in Denial?

"Even after your cigarette is long gone, you have an aura of stench that constantly emanates from your body and clothing. A smoker is like a guy who dumped gas on himself while filling up a lawnmower. He can't smell it, but everyone within 100 feet can. The next time somebody coughs when you walk by, don't assume it's 'fake.' You stink."

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Mom to 3 beautiful Daughters - Grandmother to 7 wonderful Grandchildren & another on the way!! Been in Civil Engineering for over 28 years. Been with the love of my life for 18 years now. Oh and yes...I'm a Quitter!

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Wednesday, November 17, 2010

As of Today - Update on Statistics

The Amount of Time we've been smoke FREE!: 1460 days, 17 hours, 2 minutes and 54 seconds Cigarettes NOT smoked: 65,732 x 2  =137,464
Lifetime Saved 16 months, 22 days, 2 hours
Money Saved: $9,855.00 x 2 (for Mike) = $19,710

Tuesday, November 16, 2010

Today is 4 Years exactly since our QUIT!

Congratulations Mike...we did it!  Its been 4 years since we made the decision to change our lives forever!  Four years since we overcame the burden of smoking and took back our lives!  I'm so proud of us!  I'm so proud of you!  I so much love the healthier you!  No more coughing fits in the middle of night and sometimes it would contain blood, I remember!  No more Morning Smokers Cough only to blame it on allergies or something in the air!  We are smoke free my love!  Yea for us!! I'm honored to have taken this journey with you! 

Some of the things we have experienced over the last 4 years has been interesting.  Occasionally we DREAM about smoking.  In our dreams we know we quit so the guilt is there as we dream.  I always wake up from those dreams disappointed in myself because I somehow feel I cheated!  There are times Mike gets the urge to smoke.  Hanging out outside with friends at a bonfire with a beer in his hand reminds him of moments long ago with a cigarette in his hand.  The internal URGE TO SMOKE isn't there anymore.  With me it's an anger I created to overcome these feelings.  I do NOT crave cigarettes anymore.  Actually it is the opposite.  The smell of them literally makes me sick!  They have such a chemical smell to me I can pick out a smoker and their cigarette a mile away!  No Joke!  A guy smoking a cigarette in the car in front of me makes me nauseous if my window is open!  It's amazing how much the smoke truly does fill the air! 

When I smoked I believed if I was smoking outside then I was being courteous.  Truth is - its just about as bad.  The smoke lingers in the air...like a green fog only to be finally inhaled by some oblivious non-smoking passerby or even by the original offender without them knowing it.  I love that restaurants are all finally coming together to ban smoking.  I actually stopped going to the places that allowed smoking because the smell was so bad.  Sadly now the smokers have taken to smoking right at the entrances.  I understand it, but I hate it.  I am now on a regular basis getting your 2nd hand smoke as I enter the establishment!  Believe me, we are getting it.  Please move away from the entrance - you are killing me and any others including our children we are bringing there.  Do yourself a favor and us, smoke in your own vehicle - at least then we may be spared.

I know you think I sound harsh.  Like one of those EX smokers.  The attitude and all.  You are right.  I never understood it but I do now.  I smoked for 34 years of my life. 34 years.  It was my choice.  No one forced me.  I was addicted however, but still my choice. 
I want you to know that I am admitting it before all that read this, I lived those 34 years in denial!  I am sorry!!  Sorry for my 2nd hand smoke that you had to breathe in.  Sorry the smell you had to put up with.  Sorry for the excuses and lost time I wasted by smoking.  I am so Sorry to my children.  I smoked while I was pregnant, too.  Oh yes I am the worst kind of smoker.  I can't take that back.  But know this, I am so sorry girls.  Sorry that I make you worry about my health and sorry I put you at risk for cancer, too.  I am Sorry for my shortcomings and the price you had to pay for me to be like this. I am surely sorry that I ever smoked!

If you are a Smoker right now - you my friend are living your life in Denial, too!  Take it from someone that has been exactly where you are.  I'm NOT a non-smoker!  I am a Smoker - for life!  Just as a Alcoholic is an Alcoholic for life, even after he is done drinking!  I know what I am talking about.  34 years of my life smoking upwards of 2 packs a day makes me an expert on this subject...trust me! You are living in Denial!

Find that moment....Find that instance.....Find that person.....Find that occurrence or happening that will make you choose that moment to give it up forever!  For you to choose LIFE instead of a very slow death!

Aren't you tired of being sick?  Do you miss that loved one and don't want to die the same way?  Aren't you tired of the embarrassment, the smell, the inconvenience of it, the yellow teeth, the yellow walls, your children's health, the whispers from non-smokers, the cost, the ashtrays, the excuses, waiting for cancer to show up and mostly aren't you just tired of smoking and not being able to breathe? 
I got so sick of being sick all the time and not being able to just get over it like everyone else.  I got sick of watching my Mom and her quality of life diminish.  She once told me..."Quit because of me Linda" and I didn't understand it then.  But I grew to understand it as I watched her last 10 years.  She told me that one of her happiest moments in her life is when she had heard that me and Mike had quit smoking!  It was because of her and a million other reasons!
You need to find what it is that will make you sick of it, too!  No excuses.  No lies.  Just Quit!

I wish you luck my friend.  I wish you healthy lungs and a better quality life.  It won't be easy.  But I know you can do it because I did! :)

Wednesday, September 15, 2010

.....as the years go by!

As of this November 18th, 2010 it will be 4 years since Mike and I quit smoking. The events in the last four years have only strengthened and confirmed our original decision to quit smoking. I had thyroid Cancer and my thyroid has been removed. Mike and I both have Asthma. I've had Cancer cells on my cervix which were removed and now have to be checked every 6 months for their return.
The biggest change was my Mothers death this past April 12th, 2010 of COPD (Coronary Obstructive Pulmonary Disease). She was a lifetime smoker until just 20 years ago. It finally took her life at age 67. So young and such a waste.  My brothers & sisters have now lost both our parents to the addiction of smoking. This should be a wake up call to anyone in our family for sure.
 
To anyone who still smokes in our immediate family and beyond - and for anyone that had witnessed Mom's struggle close up.  Her journey was a tough one and it totally changed her quality of life for the last 20 years.  It was so hard to watch her quality of life decay the way it did.  Less movement, less visits, lack of Independence, loss of will to live and way more hospital stays. 

All these things were real.  If you witnessed our Mothers life and the struggle she dealt with daily because of this disease caused by Smoking and you can still smoke - than maybe you should ask yourself why her death and life were not enough to give you the strength to quit smoking!  What will it take then?  Guaranteed...it will take you! 
The picture above is my mother.  This was the picture that was used at her Memorial.  But this isn't the picture of Mom during the last few years.  This was after my daughter did her make up and her hair and I did a little touch up here and there with the photo.  This was my mother the last few years.  Not so healthy looking because that is what cigarettes do to you.  They age you.  They yellow you.  Until eventually they kill you.  This is the truth!  
My mother would hate these pictures I'm sure.  But she wouldn't want me to glamorize her life either when this was the truth. I miss her everyday.  Let these pictures be the strength you need to quit. 
Our quality of life has improved ten fold since we quit smoking.  We play more.  We're outside more. I play with my grandchildren.  It's nice to be able to breathe fresh air. To taste. To experience life without your head in a fog. To NOT live our lives in denial all in the name of smoking.

Cigarettes & the smoke they create are the enemy...my enemy! I want them no where in my life.

This is my right!  This is your right, too!

Tuesday, January 30, 2007

73 days, 9 hours, 24 minutes and 25 seconds

Yup...you see it!! Mike and I are QUITTERS! Big time!!

Time Smoke-Free: 73 days, 9 hours, 27 minutes and 5 seconds

Cigarettes NOT smoked: 3303
Lifetime Saved: 25 days, 5 hours
Money Saved: $499.50

Now Multiply that times (2) for Mike, also! I copied and pasted that information from http://www.quitnet.com from my very own account. That website is a God-Send for me. Truly.

Its been hard. That's for sure. But it would be harder for me to PICK up a cigarette and put it in my mouth at this point!! I just don't want to. It doesn't have that control over me anymore. Just 73 days later. I AM IN CONTROL!

Believe it or not, but mind and body still crave it from time to time. Not consistent. I get mad when it happens, because I know where it comes from.

My advice: BE STRONG. WANT TO QUIT. FIND SUPPORT. LOVE YOURSELF. REMEMBER YOU WILL NOT DIE FROM NOT SMOKING. FIND A WAY TO CALM YOURSELF. AND BREATHE!!

Mike asked me last night, "How we going to reward ourselves at the 90 day mark?". I said...."by breathing Mike, by breathing!" :)

I will find something to make it a big day for us. However, I remember every moment...that I DON'T cough.... why its a reward all by itself! :) Have a Great SMOKE FREE day!

Thursday, January 18, 2007

62 days...but who's Counting??

Well we took ourselves off the the Welbutrin after 2 weeks. Its been interesting for sure.
Here is my 2-month advice I got from someone else while on Quitnet.com:

1. Be Prepared: In the beginning, know that it will be hard, even awful. Arm yourself with knowledge, something to munch on, and post and read on the Quitnet.com everyday for as long as possible. Knowledge = Power. The more you know about your addiction; the physical and psychological effects of withdrawal, and the triggers that trip you up, the stronger your quit will be.

2. Protect your quit: Avoid people who smoke, those that aggravate you, anyone who is not supportive, and stresses you out. Avoid your triggers – which you should write down and keep them near.

3. Be Committed: Don’t fool yourself with just one, or my life is too stressful, my spouse lost their quit, …a million excuses. You either want to be quit, which means you’ll suffer through the hard times and be committed to not smoking or you’ll give in and have to quit all over again, and again, and again.

I often think of the cigarette companies now. I wonder if they read these blogs about stopping the addiction. There are actually people out there that believe this is all in our minds, and that smoking is NOT an addiction brought on by nicotine quickly delivered to the brain, and that the cigarette companies do NOT put anything ADDICTIVE in the cigarettes. LIES!

These are the stages of QUITTING.

20 minutes after quitting. You begin looking for loopholes in your quit commitment, thinking about postponing the whole arrangement until after the next millenium begins.

After 8 hours. You have already contemplated at least three murders and several other brutal acts of violence. The dog and cat were beaten brutally, and now your thinking about the kids.

After 24 Hours. Your city or town declares a mysterious and unforeseen water shortage, while municipal sewers are suddenly overwhelmed.

After one week. You have consumed enough calories to sustain a Bengali village of 2000 for four years. Food shortages become critical within your region; pets and local wild animals become nervous.

After two weeks. Quitzits establish early outposts on your face. Risk of Browser's Butt Syndrome (BBS) rises to equal that for 13-year-old boys with new computers and internet access. Smileys appear in your writing and begin to replicate :)

Within one month. You have already begun to pester smokers and complain about the smell of their obnoxious cigarettes; IQ returns to low double-digits; Quitzits begin to function autonomously. Exclamation point shortages prevail across the land.

After six weeks. You may have experienced your first bowel movement since your quit began; if not, be patient, it will happen within a few more weeks.

After two months. You begin to forget the pain and misery of the first week without cigarettes, and are wondering if you could, perhaps, remind yourself of what you've been missing; Quitzits establish territorial treaties with each other.

After five months. Intelligence returns to at least 60% of its pre-quit level; concentration remains a problem, at only 50%; carpal tunnel syndrome incidence exceeds all known levels for any keyboard-intensive occupation; you have typed more words than are contained within all the works of William Shakespeare, but with more flair and "sparkle".

After six months. You wonder why you ever waited this long to quit. It's way, way, worth it.

I suppose I have a few months back before I gain my original IQ. Its something to look forward to. Thanks for letting me vent....I needed it!!

Monday, December 04, 2006

Day 17!!

Well I passed thru what you could call HELL week. On Quitnet.com, they call it "heck week" but I'm not as politically correct. 17 DAYS without a CIGARETTE!! Awesome for me....Yea... for Mike too. We are both doing so well.
Never in a million years would I have told you "I" could have done this! I always figured I would be the one left that smoked. It had me, it had me good.
Wow....what a ride! Today is the first day without my Wellbutrin. So far, not bad. I feel my back tightening up while writing that. Maybe it will be ok, maybe not. I can refill it on the 6th if I want. I've got two days to see if I can live without it. To me, its a miracle drug...pure and simple. At least for quitting smoking. As for the depressant part, you got me. I still get pissy, still get upset......is it not suppose to do that for people that are depressed?? I don't know...but I know for the side effects of not smoking it worked for me. Thats all I have to say about that.
I'm still craving though.......although my sense of smell has increased 3x at least.....
I smell smokers instantly. I was never one to like the smell of smokers or ashtrays anyway, but now I really smell them.
I still taste the same, although some people tell me that will increase too. I await that.

I still don't want one, and it is aggravating the crap out of me that I still crave them. Damn Junkie that I am!!!

Tuesday, November 21, 2006

Side Effects - Wellbutrin XL

I'm using it to help with the side effects of NOT SMOKING anymore.

Here's the Deal. The doctor told me to take One-Pill for 3 days, then Two-Pills for Four Days. On the Eighth Day you QUIT. Wellbutrin XL. Read about it. Its not for everyone. http://www.wellbutrin-xl.com/ It was originally created as a Anti-Depressant. However the side effects have been proven to help some with the withdrawal effects on Not Smoking.

Its seems to be really helping so far. I am a 2 1/4 pack smoker a day. Parents were 4 packs a day smokers. Dad died from emphysema, and Mom is on Oxygen 24/7. All my brothers and sisters smoked. There are 5 siblings. Two Males, Three Females. All but two have quit smoking now. The two younger ones. Their time is coming.

Its not Easy! No lying here! Toughest thing you'll ever do! I literally feel like a JUNKIE!
But your doing it to live longer, for your loved ones, not to get cancer, to have a GOOD QUALITY LIFE. It is WORTH it. I Guarantee it!! Look at these lungs...it won't make you quit, but it might make you think.



“Around 114,000 people die every year as a result of smoking-related illnesses. That's climbing. Cigarettes contain around 4000 different chemicals, either gases or particles - the most additive of which is nicotine. Nicotine reaches the brain within 20 seconds and creates a dependency.”
There are a lot of websites out there to help you. http://www.anti-smoking.org/

http://www.quitnet.com/ (this one has a great Chat area for Support) I found this picture on http://www.notosmoking.org and it kinda sums it up doesn't it.
Blue Cross, Blue Shield has a great Quit Smoking program. But, I needed something more. I knew that or anything by itself wouldn't be enough. Ask for help. It's there.
I didn't feel the difference of taking it (Wellbutrin XL) the first 7 days. Couldn't tell one way or the other. Thought to myself, it can't possibly help someone that is truly depressed. But then again, I'm only taking 300 MG a day. Things start to happen when the dosage goes up past 450 MG. I won't get there, no worries for me.

I still feel the withdrawal of the habit of smoking. I suppose a lot of it is because my body misses the Nicotine. Its had it for 34 years. I don't know what to do with myself when I would've been smoking. I suppose all that will come. I pray it will be soon. :) Meanwhile, I feel good about my decision. My girls and my grand-girls do too. :) I think I'm here for a while. Thank God, I happen to like it here.

First Blog of the Day

Cigarettes: Relaxing, calming, tranquil, soothing, peaceful.........killers, Cancer givers, disgusting, revolting, sickening, repulsive, ghastly, nauseating, sordid, filthy.

I finally quit smoking after 34 years on Saturday the 18th of November 2006.  Mike is doing it with me.  Wish us luck, we'll need it!